“Younger women often seek the companionship of older men for many reasons. It’s not just about the common denominator of what people think. No point in psychoanalysis with this as it’s been going on for centuries and will continue to do so regardless of the critique.“
~ Jack Jeddaman
“Whoever, in middle age, attempts to realize the wishes and hopes of his early youth, invariably deceives himself. Each ten years of a man’s life has its own fortunes, its own hopes, its own desires.” ~ Goethe
This is not a trick question. Younger women and older men. How old is too old and how young is to young? Do you think a 44 year old man should be having an intimate personal relationship with a 20 – 21 year old woman? I suppose it really doesn’t matter what we think because it happens! We at malenirvana have spent some time researching this question of morality with 40yrs+ something males and 20 yrs – 24yrs+ something females the younger women older men scenario. The conclusion is that young women like older men because the relationship comes with benefits – lots of them. Younger women and older men generally get along very well.
It would be true to say most middle aged couples are really not very comfortable with the younger women and older men scenario and from our experiences middle aged women do not deal with this at all well. We have seen it infuriate older women in public places like bars and restaurants. What they seem to forget is along the way of the women’s revolution in the past twenty years young women have evolved very different beasts at 21-27 plus years compared to twenty years ago. Young males are also threatened by the younger women and older men presence too. The social dynamics change somewhat when a younger woman dates an older man.
Be careful of bitter and twisted mothers (divine matriarch) if your an older man dating a much younger woman. If you are an older man dating a younger woman that will present quite a few challenges especially if the mother is close to your age or marginally older she will most likely dislike you instantly. Older women especially mothers of young adult women definitely have trouble getting their heads around younger women and older men relationships.
But what about an age difference of say ten years only. This certainly makes sense if you are in your 30’s as hitching up with someone your own age on a permanent basis means when you have kids your wife/partner will most likely be menopausal and the kids will be going through adolescence. Marrying a younger women when your in your mid 30’s who is say 25 years old can avoid all those dilemmas down the track. Most men don’t think that far ahead but women do!
If men were to change the way they actually think about relationships with women and their age relative to how old they are and what lies ahead what a huge mind shift this would be for men. Question is could society deal with it?
We live in a world of “Species in Denial” when it comes to the unconventional. We know there are a lot of single men in their forties, fifties, and sixties plus that will declare younger women are they only way to go. Women feel more safe and secure around an older man. An older man knows what to do!
The one main problem is younger women want children. Doesn’t make much sense having children in your mid to late 50’s. But then that depends on the man and the woman involved. And lots of couples find ways around that. The younger women and older men scenario has been around since the dawn of time and that is not going to change anytime soon.
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